Divorce is an often emotionally charged, life-changing event. This is even truer when children are involved.  Naturally, divorcing parents worry about how divorce will affect their children. As a family court lawyer, I dedicate a great deal of my practice to custody and visitation and other issues involving children.  Invariably, clients express that they want what is best for the children. I believe most parties truly are trying to do what they believe is best for their kids, but there is so much misinformation and there are many misconceptions out there about what is “best.”

Uniform outgrownOne of the unique things about living through a Lowcountry winter is that you can’t “put up” your short-sleeved shirts and your shorts.  You leave out every length and weight layer possible since we can go through all four seasons in a day.

All of the public schools and most of the private schools in our area require their students to be in uniform, so those make up a good chunk of most children’s wardrobes. The morning inevitably comes where you go to put a polo or khakis on your child only to discover they no longer fit.

Food allergiesWhen I learned that my son, Henry, had a severe allergy to nuts and peanuts, I immediately thought of everything he would miss out on: PB&J, chocolate and peanut butter, trick-or-treat, my grandmother’s famous peanut butter bars. I cried, more so for myself than for him because he was only two and didn’t know the significance of his diagnosis at that age. Sometimes, I am not sure he understands now, and he is eight and a half.

virtual purchasingWhen the app is “so easy” a toddler could use it, parents may argue about that being a good or bad thing. With the click of a “Buy Now” button or a swipe on an “In app purchase,” those fake dollars can quickly deplete the real ones in your bank account.  We’ve all seen it: the app is FREE, but offers “In-App Purchases.” Seems pretty harmless until $5 a week turns into $200 in a month. YIKES! Our very own editor Kate Vermilyea shares her own story on how she handles spending real money on “fake money” with her children (Zoe, 8 & Rosie, 6).

foster familiesAs rewarding as it is at the end of the day, let’s face it – parenting is no easy task. We do our best and hope that our children come to understand our love as they grow and develop. For those of us who are foster parents, we have a host of extra challenges thrown in. We find ourselves attempting to navigate relationships with biological families and social workers while helping to heal emotional and sometimes physical trauma. At the same time we have to maintain the confidentiality of the child’s situation and yet do our best to give them childhood experiences that are as close to normal as possible.